My wife of 3 years (together for 8) just started staying over her mom's house. She will only come over when I'm at work. I was in a slump for about 6 mos. I was a jobless bum. I lost my truck driving job because she was fired, and I didn't want to work by myself away from home, so I collected unemployment. We had to declare bankruptcy, and my attorney told me to wait until the process was finished to get a job. The next day I did. We argued daily about that, but since then I've been working 12 hrs a day. She left the day I started my job and it was too late. I see her once in a while, and she just keeps getting more distant as since she is staying with her family (and are EXTREMELY CLOSE), and do not like me. When I try to talk to her about fixing our marriage, she just says "it's done". She has built up a wall that I can't get through. She's drinking alot, staying at a bar until close every night, and just didn't go to work today because she was drunk, and didn't call off. She's had a hard life, and as such can exclude herself from all emotions. When I met her, I was a go-getter, that wouldn't take anything from anyone. I mellowed out but now she says her life is boring. I don't know what to do. I tell her that we're family, and she rebutts either "no we're not, or we're not blood". She was the one that kept pressuring marriage, but I was hesitant until I thought we were ready. I'm trying to fix this because she makes me who I am, but since she's with her family, I have no chance. She told me to call her, and when I did, she said she can't stand being in our house together. So after all of my story, is there a way to save our marriage when she just wants to run( which is how her family was raised problem...run? Thanks for your help, I'm not usually an emotional guy, but this is tearing me apart.
