I'm curious about something... would you describe yourself as an approachable warm person? Seriously. I know I would describe myself with those words... and I'm willing to bet there are more than a few people around here who just can't fathom that in their mental image of me.... and I'm sure it is because of the way I write and how my tone is perceived. I was kind of... surprised, actually, when Lou said what he said about me on MoJo's thread... it didn't hurt my feelings... but it does help me tremendously to know that that is how he mentally views me.
When I read the stuff you write about your wife, I just cannot fathom you as an approachable, warm person. That doesn't mean that you aren't. It just doesn't fit with the mental image I've created for you... in my Corri world. I don't know that I do that on purpose, but in absence of ANY other means of ascertaining/remembering someone... the only thing I have to go on is how I interpret meaning from your writing. I'm sure we all do that to a greater or lesser degree.
You said something about that on my thread... you asked me if you reminded me of my xH when you disagree with me... and I said no... that was an honest answer, btw... but giving it some thought... I'm not so sure that I don't automatically hear you in my head in a certain way when I read some of your posts... as I do for everyone here... maybe it is a way for me to sort information, or remember screen names and posts and incidents related to said people... you know what I mean? I think the brain does it to help itself.
Dunno.
But... I am going to keep this in mind, what you've said... and removing those filters you've talked about... that will be a great help to me.
