Recipe for a Perfect Marriage

[MJontheMend]

Where to begin...

Of course that means women want to hit it and quit it then. But I am a jerk for..... I dont know....what am I a jerk for? Making her masochistic?

I don't hit on men in ice cream aisles in blatant ways or go to biker bar in tight red t-shirts etc. because I don't want to encounter the kind of behavior you exhibit. I am at least self-aware enough to know that my bunny couldn't deal with that. I have or had a certain level of denial but it didn't reach that level. The thing is when my monkey is high on dopamine, I am literally a dope or a dodo. My monkey is not a good friend to my bunny. My monkey gets behind the wheel of her little red Corvette with a tank full of dopamine and bunny is just dragged along for the ride. The dopamine runs out, the monkey falls asleep and bunny wakes up to find herself floating in a puddle of oxytocin far, far from home. Whose fault is this? Zoo Keeper Jenny. I need to make some better zoo rules for myself. Clearly.

Rude monkey. Bunny in a chicken suit. Duh.... I guess. we will see. if this bothers him. Of course if you hide the bunny in a monkey suit, you may create a false impression and expectation....

Trust me, my relationship with NG is finis. I wish I could just stamp it HJNTIY and move on but since I belong to this damn BB, I guess that is impossible. Let's just assume that NG is an intelligent person and a nice man and if he perceived that a woman was hiding her bunny in a monkey suit he might have a good idea why that was happening. Or, we could go with the theory that my *ss isn't as hot as I think it is but actually I think that is highly unlikely given the evidence to the contrary - lol.

Nod. Sounds reasonable. Thats actually good to hear for two reasons.
1. There is hope.
2. a.It means Im not attractive, and thus b. they are just using me as I thought from their F and Fing.

Right. To women who don't actually know you, your hardened exterior would make you unattractive as a relationship partner to any woman who was at all in touch with her bunny. The perhaps minor point I'm trying to make is that just because a woman isn't in touch with her bunny doesn't mean she doesn't have one. Just like you go around acting like you are invulnerable and don't have a puppy dog. So really I guess you are hooking up with the right women and I should just shut up.

Possibly? haha. your funny. Yep. I sure do Understand. Tricky isnt it. Because you are not a cold- hearted heinous b*tch, are you? But your still not bringing the cow.

I tried to bring the cow and the bunny. I was chicken-sh*t but I did it anyways because I am bold if not brave. I just couldn't quite pull it off. FYI, I made him some plum tarts and I was happy when he ate 6 of them after sex and said "I am in sensual overload." So there! When's the last time you fed one of your "dates"?

hmm. you dont make a vow to yourself. that particular vow to yourself would show a serious lack of self awareness. Desire is not a choice. I vow that I will always feel happy.... no.. doesnt work.
I vow that I will not want to go home when drunk... no doesnt work.
I vow that I will not drink and drive. Yep. That I can do.

I meant that I would vow to choose to verb desire rather than feel desire in the same way I would choose to verb love rather than feel love. What I mean by choosing to verb desire, I haven't quite worked out but includes stuff like communicating openly about my sexual desire, being open to his communications, working at being GGG, working at maintaining attraction physically and psychologically, working at being empathetic and responsive, generally working at sexual personal growth.

Because of the way things went wrong with Teddy, I told myself that I was going to communicate as openly and honestly as possible about sex right from the get-go with any man I dated from then on. I was brave about that at least and the results were outstanding.

A woman wanting the man to have 'the power' is all about what she wants, and not owning her desire, in exactly the same manner that the man wants to see the woman as innocent. Its ego desire, not reality. She is not innocent. He does not have all the power. We are not equal, but we are even.

I agree with you but we can't have sex or romance as two Baby X's, can we? Okay, obviously we can but do we really want to? "Do me, do you" and then cuddle like two little bunpups might get a bit stale after a while. If I empathize with a man's desire to see me as "innocent" that doesn't mean that I have to be innocent. I can just play innocent in the same way I might play naughty school-girl. You can accept reality but still play with the components of desire. I would very much like to meet any Teddy Bear who was differentiated enough to play Wolf for me on occasion ( and then switch back to Teddy Bear afterwards - lol)