Had a fantastic weekend with D3 , it was my weekend to have her. I took her swimming on Saturday and i can't believe how confident she has become in the water, i think that i am going to look into her having proper swimming lessons. Today i took D3 on the train for the first time to Manchester, normally i would drive but i wanted to make it a novelty for D3. She was a bit unsure at fisrt because the train was going so fast but after a while she got use to it and started to enjoy it.
My mum babysat for me last night while i went out for a couple of drinks to the local pub. So now, after an ectic weekend i feel like i am ready to drop lol .
Nothing to really report in regard to my husband, he continues to be pleasant but that is as far as it goes. Again seems neither really unhappy or estactically happy. I did ask him if he had a nice weekend, he just said yeah but a bit boring.
I feel like i am back to where i need to be, not analysing anything and just continuing to move forward. .
Hope everyone is ok
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
Nicky, I'm glad to see that you and your little one had a fabulous weekend. It's good to see that you got out for a bit too. Doing "fun" things make life a bit easier for the both of you.
Have a great week!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Snodderly - Yes things are far easier when we are kept busy, less thinking time. I suppose this is very much the same for the MLCer which is why it takes them such a long time to deal with thier issues, if ever.
Been feeling ok this week , i finally found my outfit for the 70's party i am going to in a couple of weeks, i am really looking forward to it. In the mean time i have another party to go to this weekend which also should be a good night.
Things are all quiet on the husband front, he came to see D3 yesterday as he normally does, she loved seeing him but once again did not want him to leave, she idolises her daddy.
Hope everyone is ok
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
Had a great weekend . I went shopping yesterday afternoon and then went to a party last night which was so much fun but today i have been suffering with the effect of too much alachol . I really think that an early night is in order for me tonight lol. I have got the 70's fancy dress party next weekend, it is for my sisters 30th birthday which should be good fun, i'm looking forward to it.
Husband had D3 overnight and took her swimming this morning, i am so pleased that he has started spending some quality time with her because she so deserves it . Nothing much to report with regards to my husband, he continues to be pleasant but that is as far as it goes.
Hope everyone is ok
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
Seem to have been really busy this week with one thing or another but been feeling quite good . I watched a film the other night called Preminission with Sandra Bullock, I thought it was a really good film but at times found it hard to follow. Has anyone else seen it?, i got a little choked up at the end when he decided that it was his wife and his family he wanted instead of OW.
My husband came to visit D3 tonight and was extremely pleasant, very much like his old self, he had D3 and i giggling so much , he managed quite a few giggles himself lol. He really seemed to enjoy his time here tonight and that is all i am going to take it as, nothing more, nothing less. I have learnt from the past not to expect anything. He knows that we love him and that is all i can do for now while continuing to move forward in my life. If my husband ever decided that he would like to be a family with D3 and i again, he knows where we are.
Hope everyone is ok
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
Hi Nicky - good for you ! I still thinks it's admirable of you that you can have your H around and be so lovely and pleasant when he's around !
As you know, I couldn't do it anymore.....it hurts my heart to say it, but it was too hard for me, it broke me inside ! You are so STRONG ! Well done !! Your love for him shines through !!
Take care !!! xxxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
This whole process has been difficult for the both of us to say the least but you and i have managed to get to a place where we are able to cope with the situation better.
Like you i am no longer expecting my husband to come back, it would be nice if he did but i have realised the reality of the situation and know that in order for me to survive i have got to take it one day at a time and live life for D3 and i. Who know what the future holds but i'm sure it will be a good one for both of us .
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
Had a busy day at work today but its weekend now and i have the 70's party i have been invited to tomorrow night .
My husband was flirting via text for most of the day today but once again not reading into it. I recieved a letter from the solicitor today explaining that they have sent another letter to my husband because he has failed to send the Divorce document back to the court. They have told me that if he does not reply soon then they will have to send a baliff to serve him personally, i hate the thought of this.
Today i asked my husband whether he recieved the letter, he said he did and that the letter seemed so harsh. He has never once told me through all this that he is confused and so i have no reason to believe he is but i fellt that i had to say something to him before he signed. I said that if there was the smallest chance that he was even slightly confused and unsure, it was ok to say so and that i would not expect him to come running back home straight away. Even though i know it seems stupid of me saying this to my husband when he has never once said he was confused but i just wanted him to know that i would not expect him to coming home if he admitted it.
As it happens he never said anything to admit or deny the fact but i am glad i have said what i said so he knows. He just said that it all seems so final, which in my eyes it is because it is the last chapter of the book, so who knows how it will all end.
hope everyone is ok
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
, it was my weekend to have her. I took her swimming on Saturday and i can't believe how confident she has become in the water, i think that i am going to look into her having proper swimming lessons. Today i took D3 on the train for the first time to Manchester, normally i would drive but i wanted to make it a novelty for D3. She was a bit unsure at fisrt because the train was going so fast but after a while she got use to it and started to enjoy it.
. I really think that an early night is in order for me tonight lol. I have got the 70's fancy dress party next weekend, it is for my sisters 30th birthday which should be good fun, i'm looking forward to it.