Nomo, I'm gonna have to take up a speed-reading course to keep up with you. Good points in that, yes, WAW's H is hurting in his way and we most likely wouldn't beat him with a stick should we ever meet him (though we might poke him a bit).
Don't think you were dismissive, just not sure any of us really have a good grasp of what WAW is up against.
WAW said herself somewhere on this thread that he is a nice guy and a good dad. I believe, if memory serves, that she's been pushing the MC, not H.
I'd just hate to see the lovely and talented WAW be manipulated back into the M by her H -- guilted into it, so to speak -- because we all finally got IT (whatever it was for each of us).
Whether WAW is a WAW or not is really semantic. Just something that bugs me for some reason. I guess because while she left (walked away), she's the one trying to make positive changes (and, unlike most of the other WAW's we describe in our sitches, she didn't just leave to leave, but to save the M).
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY