another thought. I now understand why not tending the fences comes across as not cherishing. I dont like it, but I understand it. I will have a personal boundary, for myself, not to creat a R leap frog sitch again.
How does this The way to handle someone like me is to be iron-firm in your boundaries or I will walk all over you with pointy high-heeled shoes
Demonstrate you are honoring/respecting your H?
If you dont believe in, or didnt take marital vows like that, then never mind.
I don't really know what you're trying to say here bf. I married him because of the type of person he was. I knew he had good personal boundaries, and I knew I would never have the opportunity to walk all over him, because that's just not who he is. I "honor" that about him. He'd have to undergo a pretty drastic personality change, to the point where he'd be an entirely different person, for me to disrespect him. Not likely to happen.
I really like him. He's brilliant, funny, and kind. I try to contribute to his happiness, and he tries to contribute to mine. I would never betray him, and I trust him not to betray me. I want to spend my life at his side. Is that "honor" enough for you?
