Lis, I've lived it for a very long time. It's not been an easy walk in the park because he can't let go even after all of this time. I have nothing but compassion for him because he is really a very lost soul and will never understand the meaning of inner peace and that happiness comes from within. I wish him well, but I do pray each and every day that he would cut the ties and move on w/his life. I do not need to be spied on both at home and at work. The divorce was final in 2002, therefore, there's nothing more for him to be concerned about.
Yes, I know what you mean about things being more "real" to you after reading some of what I've posted. Until you've lived it, understand what you need to do to get better and are truly ready to listen, you won't understand it.
Yes, it's a hard road to travel, but I can promise you, you will get to the other side and life will be different for you. Doors open up on so many new and exciting opportunities that you might have dismissed had you still been w/your spouse. The one thing that I noticed was the stress and that monkey on my back was truly gone. I didn't have to deal with lawyers any longer and I could finally breathe again. Life is good, no life is great! Take a look around you. You have so much to be thankful for, yes, even w/Puffy acting out.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
