Glad you're ok, Penny (and everyone else!). CONGRATS! Look forward to reading your new thread.
Met with my lawyer today to discuss some of the things H and I have been negotiating on. I had told H that I needed to ask her first before I agreed to anything more. I mentioned to the lawyer that I wanted what was fair and legal, but I was hoping I wasn't asking for more for revenge. She laughed and said, "what is wrong with revenge?". It was good to be laughing instead of crying!