Snodderly - I think I posted earier that my h said recently [and rather petulantly - he is still in MLC] 'I feel like a rejected lover' [with respect to his children]
I felt like saying 'Errrrm yes, and . . .' but bit my tongue, and validated the feeling. Beacause I would like them to have a r, but it isn't my problem. Big break through for me here!!