IMP I mean that if they emerge from MLC they have to deal with the wreckage of broken relationships - not just with spouses, but children, and friends. For example: none of my kids trusts their father any more, or wants to spend time with him. He is coming to realise this, and it is very painful for him. When he blazed off like a mini Hale Bopp he really thought his kids would be OK with everything he did. Now he sees they are not. It has taken him about 18 months to realise this. And we are talking a very bright man here.
I remember a close [male] friend sitting down with my h just post bomb, and calmly telling him what the consequences of his running off would be. Now he says 'G was right' and is trying to put things right.
