another thought. I now understand why not tending the fences comes across as not cherishing. I dont like it, but I understand it. I will have a personal boundary, for myself, not to creat a R leap frog sitch again.
How does this The way to handle someone like me is to be iron-firm in your boundaries or I will walk all over you with pointy high-heeled shoes
Demonstrate you are honoring/respecting your H?
If you dont believe in, or didnt take marital vows like that, then never mind.
