I know it is hard to do when you are certainly so stressed but, you need to avoid arguments with H. Just state the facts and leave it at that. If you don't know how to react to H when he is like that say nothing.
I will post my Tat. Iv'e gotten so many good responses to it everyone loves it and wants one like it. They can't though it's my design.
Please try to remember to act as if.
jAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez