Hey WAW, I have been reading your thread and I may not be totally up to speed in your situation so forgive me if I am off base here but this is my opinion on your situation.
It seems as if you started off as a WAW, and your husband DB'd the heck out of you (basically turned the tables) He showed that he was not about to chase you, and he continued on with his life.
This took you out of your position as a WAW and he is now the WAH, He has all the power because you are the one who wants him back. My gut feeling on all of this is that if you get to the point that you are totally sincere, in moving on with your life, even if it means finding someone else and totally detaching, your husband will have a change of heart.
It is a very dangerous move, but you have already lost your position as the WAW, you want to save this marriage more than him, which gives him all the power, and as a man I think he knows this. I believe he know how much you are hurting, and wants you to come back begging. The fact that you hurt gives him the strength to keep detaching.
You have to turn the tables, my wife did this to me, I was fed up with her trying to change me, and I would throw comments telling her to leave if she wanted too.
Guess what, one day she did and it rocked my world, she totally detached from me, and I got what I asked for. I don't think she ever had any intention of giving me another chance but things seem to be looking up for me. I now see the error of my ways, and am becoming a better person.
You have to really detach, your husband is in control and men love control, I know I did. My wife snatched that control away from me so fast it made my head spin, and it woke me up. I think its time that you give your husband a wake up call, you seem to be down to your last straw, and maybe the after LRT card needs to be played.
