Inmyplace Can I be clear about this. Are you saying that we shouldn't speculate - by speculate I mean make some deductions from the evidence that we have? Knowing that we may have read the situation wrong or that our theory may be incorrect? I think that as long as we say - look, could this be the case?
I hope that I am not doing the newbies any harm. If I am I apologise. COuld someone else come in on this? I hoped this was useful, but you seem to think not . . . .
The books I cited earlier [and they are by pretty well respected people] are very clear that it is EARLY abuse that causes the most damage. By early we are talking pre-6 years old. Now I don't know you, and your background,but the kind of treatment that is posted here seems to go way beyond a failure to honour a promise. I am not trivialising what you tell me happened to you, but was there systematic abuse of the kind that Snodderly and others have described?
I was married for more than thirty years to a very good kind and loving man who changed virtually overnight into a monster that none of his friends or chldren recognised. He wasn't always an a**hole. While my paramount concern is to live my own life I would like to know WHY this happened. If it is just a random universe and these things hapen, OK.
