Nomopo's Funk? Is that what this is?

[Kelley]

Nomo,
I know exactly how you are feeling about the whole sitch. My head is telling me that even if he splits with the OW that he will just move on to someone else and not even give me a second thought but my heart still is holding on to it but not as much as it used to. I go from feeling resentment and bitterness with each thing I find out about him that I can definitely let him go now but then it fades and I am still wanting him back. Yes it is the time when you are alone and nothing else is going on when these feeling start creeping back in. I at least am not crying much about it anymore but have started drinking more.

You can't help feeling like your in this limbo state when you can see that the WAS has no intentions of moving forward and it is all so frustrating.

I think the best thing to do is just to keep all of our options open. Keep the db'ing going on but also keep your options open to other things and see where things fall into place. I keep trying to tell myself that if I am meant to get back with H then it will happen but I also have to remember that just maybe this chapter of my life is meant to be over and something new awaits me.

We all just want to be happy and it seems like our WAS have found it without us and it does hurt. This whole sitch has taught us all to grow as a person as many here have mentioned that our lives did fall into a rut and this is bringing us out of it by focusing on ourselves. Each passing day does help us to detach a little more and more but we still do hold on to what good we had in the past.

Michelle said in her book that it will take a month for each year of our marriage to possibly get things either worked out or to be able to "get over" them.