Im so sorry that you are dealing with all of this.
At this point I don't know what else you can do to make it better. Just continue to be there for your girls and detach from your W. I agree, there shouldn't be any talk of a D in the house.. but you already knew that, it is really good that she heard it from someone else.. this validates your feelings about it. She's not going to argue with 3 other people.
Throwing glasses huh.. she really sounds unstable at this point. Remember she created this. In time your girls will know this. Its a shame she just can't come to her census and see what she is doing to the family.
I hope you are able distract yourself a bit and focus on your needs, its important if you are going to try and get her back. You have to feel good about yourself and work on that.
Your a great guy scott, hang in there and reach out here whenever you need to.
Blessings~
TAL
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