It is a little of both. How difficult it is for a child to realize that their mother may be flawed. I was fortunate and can now deal with this fact.
Your answers will come, but you do have to sit quietly and listen. Don't react or respond. You can sift thru the information they 'spew' and figure it out during your quiet times. You truly don't want them back while they are figuring things out. Let the damage fall on the op or where it will. Not being mean, just honoring myself and his journey.
