If you asked her, would she actually say that all the problems in the marriage are yours?
No, she's too smart for that. I would think she'd say that the lion's share are my problems, and then she'd frame her problems in a way that would make her appear as somewhat of a martyr/long-suffering wife; or that she has tried to do her part over and over, but that her efforts have been frustrated by my actions, to the point that she has "given up." In other words, that her contribution to the marital problems are a direct result of my contribution.
But, then again, she could surprise me. She's done it before.
And hey, cemar: good analysis! Awesome, actually. Thanks.
