The plan seems to have gone out the window. What happened to it?
I see your point. Just because I answered my wife honestly this morning, instead of saying, "before I tell you why I left the bedroom, let me say, I have apologized and I will not join you in the beating the sh!t out of me, etc.", does not mean that the plan is gone.
I still intend to talk with her about the other issues. I just didn't get the chance to, this morning, before it got really ugly. And bringing my issues up in the midst of ugliness: 1. is what I usually do 2. gets a response of "making it all about you" 3. shuts down her "listening" ability 4. is ineffectual.
No, what is much more difficult for me to do is to bring up my issues in the midst of calm. This "making waves" is a big fear of mine, as you well know. Although I knew that my answer to her this morning would likely cause waves, I said it because it was what had been banging around in my head the night before. It was a question that I felt deserved an honest answer; kind of like, "what were you doing downstairs?"
