How do you do that and still have hope that things will work out? Won't I start to not want it anymore either.
Lissie - I hear you, it is probably the hardest part of all of this. But I can tell you that in my experience, once you finally admit that they may never return, a sort of spiritual calm arrives, and the DB principles are much easier to follow - which in turn maximises any chance your marriage might survive. It is a juxtaposition right - let go, open the cage, accept the risk, and if he/she is the right person for you, they will return. If not, you know you loved enough to let go and that is a great basis for the next stage / phase of your life. I think thats what we are all saying in a roundabout way.
Me - 39 W - 33 M - 5yrs Bomb - 8/5 2007 Moving out - 9/8 2007
