Newly Separated....Now what???

[nephartiti]

Yes, telling people is tricky. For me, I don't try to hide it. I just tell the truth. My H feels that he needs some time for himself and I'm doing what I have to do in the meantime to take care of my family.

You do have to be careful, though, because people are very eager to put in there 2 cents. If they see you're hurting or you tell them you are waiting for him to come home, a lot of people, at least in my circle, say forget him. A few try to push me into the dating scene and to file for a divorce. That's not what I want. Some people have trouble dealing with that.

Anyway, you know who your friends are. Confide in people who will support your decision. You need all the support you can get, but don't proclaim it to the world either. If things work the way you want them to, you will be back together someday. Then, you'll have to explain to everyone again. If you've told everyone all the gorey details, they might not be as accepting to your reconciliation.

That's why this place is so great. We're all in the same boat and are not going to judge you for your decisions.

Just take it one person and one day at a time.

Good luck!