My fear/concern/worry is that this new ease between us is a sign that we're just going to be friends; that she is done and that this is moving on for her.
H, here is how I see us (me, you and a few other guys on the boards). A marriage relationship is like a house. When we first got married we had a nice brand new house. Over the years we neglected to take care of our house and it started to fall apart. We may have tried to do some repairs, but we did not have the right tools or know how and we made a bigger mess of the damage that had already occurred. With our neglect from the past and the added friction which we have caused from trying to repair our house when we did not know how, our house caught on fire and burnt to the ground. We feel a great lose for our house and we miss it oh so much. We loved that house and we want it back. So, we are going to rebuild. The foundation is already there we just need to clear off the burnt debris and start building again.
Friendship is that foundation. That is where we must start. We cannot build a new marriage without this strong foundation. Only after we have this strong foundation based on friendship can we begin to rebuild the M.
Moral of the metaphor here. Work on the friendship for now and hopefully someday soon our wives will want to rebuild our houses with us.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
