As many of you know I got the new job. Well there are two small issues to deal with on it. One is that it is a paycut for the first year and they don't offer health insurance. Well currently I work for a company that offers the best benefits and health insurance.
So I called W yesterday to remind her to check with her work on how much it would cost to add our S to her health insurance. She didn't answer so I left a VM. Well at the drop off this morning she is upset with me. I ask what the problem is and she says, "I can't understand your logic in taking this job."
After she spoke for a moment, I haven't wanted to tell her because I don't want her coming home over it, but I told her what I was going to be making in 5 years. Her response "That's your problem your always thinking 5 years ahead and never about today." What does that mean? She is always mad that I plan and organize, and have goals and such. I don't know how to take this, so I should stay in the job I have now, never make much and just float along. I know she feels upset that she "helped" me, ya right I have all the student loans, through school and now it is paying off.
She keeps griping about my poor decision making and how she has no money and she thought she would be getting some help in the form of child support from me and all I talk about is the $500 she owes me. I commented on it yesterday when she said she couldn't pay the daycare.
Well I responded with such, "W, first have I made you pay the $500? No, I haven't. Do I still pay my share of things like daycare? Yes, I have. It isn't my fault you don't have money. You choose to leave, get an apartment you can't afford and then buy a convertable. I'm sorry your stressed about our S's health insurance and how you will pay half, but we are maintaining two households and that is your choice."
Now she wants to talk tonight when she picks him up, I'm sure it isn't about us whatsoever, more about her financial sitch. I feel horrible and want to help her, but don't think I can keep going through this.
