"Yes" on the counseling. We're going to go to MC together, and if she likes the counselor, my wife has indicated that she may even want to see her for some IC. My wife and I have both made a list of about three of our own individual "Issues" that we feel we need to work on, and she has shown a level of self-awareness and introspection that I have NEVER seen from her previously.
I have always been willing to go to counselling; hell, I'm the one who PUSHED for it in the past, but she would never go. The only thing I was balking at THIS time, is that I was unwilling to go as long as my wife was still having the affair and seeing OM. Now that she has ended all contact, I'm more than willing to go to a good pro-marriage MC.
