God, the devil or fate?

[Lissie]

I am glad you went to the Lodge,

He is no longer your priority. You and the princess are the priorty.

First things first(I advise you this, b/c it works in my house)

A schedule.
you need to have a strict schedule, he can not just pick her up whenever he wants.

Sit down with him and get a schedule.(I know how hard this is, I can only email puffy, not sit down with him)

But you see, a transition for these kids, any transition, is overwhelming.

The kids don't want to hurt us.

So on top of them protecting us, they have to shift from their every day life,

It is draining,

this is what leads to acting out, and not wanting to talk or whatever.

(remember I am no child therapist, this only works with my kids)


If princess doesn't want to talk to chickenshit, then that is ok.

She is entitled to her feelings.

Let your x spew at you over it, but do not allow him to make her feel guilty over it.

My kids have a feeling journal.

Sometimes they don't want to talk to me, so my son writes it down in the journal, and I respond.

My 6 year old D draws for me, and then I ask her to explain the picture to me, when she is ready.

Under no circumstances to you bad talk chickenshit in front of her.

If she says, I hate daddy for not living here.

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry, do you just wanna hug now instead of talking.


My kids say many times

I miss papi.

Let's count how many thing we miss about him.

They start talking and I say, Um how about when papi used to fart in the bathroom?

On a scale of 1-10 how much do you miss that.

And eventually we get to laughing, and they can move on from that pain. But in a positive way.

Change things in the house to make it more hers.

Let her feel her feelings, and mostly just listen.

They need to get it out.

Never use the princess as a messenger for you and chickenshit.

B/c they will feel an anxiety to not get the message wrong, they don't want to be the reason, why you seem upset.

It's hard lovey.

But you know what to do.

I trust in your parenting

And buy the book, the power of a praying parent.

He is not your focus any longer chick,

live it, breathe it, know it.

Your princess is the one that needs all your energy not chickenshit.