Yikes Sara. I have no other divorcing or DBing friends beside my mom and she is in Hawaii with her companion of 20 years after their reconciliation. She DBed her tail off and it worked. She did not even read DB but she could have wrote it!!!
Donna, He will only feel guilt and resentment from that letter and that will be a reflection of you. He wants his reflection, when he looks at you, to be one of a good father, a loyal friend, and a providing husband. I know he has been something else altogether but men love and want to be with someone who reflects that positive image back to their heads. Men, correct me if I am wrong, and I apoligize for continually generalizing about dudes on this forum. I gathered this from my reading and my own experience, caveat ending. All we need to write to them is that we were glad that they came into our lives in the first place. That is it. Our pain does not even exist to them. It is vapour and the harder we try to show them the deeper they go into denial. Again, my Dad is still in denial after 30 something years, even now, whilst my H is repeating my Dad's history, my Dad still does not see that I married a man who cheated and lied just as my father cheated and lied to my mother.
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
