I have been "Going Dark" for a few weeks with W. Will be going even darker after this week (finally separated our finances in regards to morgage, bills etc). Still living in the same house, just "roomates and co-parenting" at the moment.
W will have to manage her own finances now (after I looked after all the bills over the last 13 years). So it will be an interesting time for her, since she spends everything she has straight away, now she will have to learn to save and budget for end of months bills etc.
Hopefully it wont backfire, and she gets into massive debt before our D-day.
Over the last few weeks, I have distanced myself to W, other than parenting issues. I have not had her wind me up about anything, just acting "as if" with everything.
She has started to act somewhat strange over this time. She is more "picky" with things at home. Example, when I cook for me and DD, she will always remind me to clean the stove, wipe the bench etc as she is leaving to meet OM (eventhough I always did it after a meal and never had to be told to clean up afterwards). Just to name a few.
Called up about consent orders for divorce, have I contacted my solicitor and have I signed them yet etc. I keep telling her that I have organised an app with him next week to read over them and sign, but she keeps bringing it up and calling me at work.
I don't want to over anylize, but she seems to be ringing me more times now than in the last 10 months.
Starting to get a little short fused when I don't react like normal.
Over the last few weeks, she has tried to get a reaction out of me for most things, but for some reason, I just cant react like I used to, as I am over all of this.
Also with APEC being in Sydney, I have been flat out with work, and find myself exhausted after juggling work, gym and DD, leaving not much time for a social life at the moment.
I wonder if anyone else has had the same thing happen when they have "Gone Dark"?
I told my W I had bumped into her old school friend when I was getting my work car serviced a few weeks ago, and her reaction "Did you ask her out?". Well, she got my number off the vehicle service record and rang me today to ask me out. W remembers her as being very attractive and tall at school (and nothing has changed since, but I did not tell her this).
Anyhow, just thought I would update my sitch for future archiving in success stories
All the best to everyone, and hope life is treating everyone well, AndyV
