All hope is lost/help

[Evie]

Thanks for replying Liz & Cat, its reassuring to know that i have support out there from people who understand. You both sound so positive. I dont feel positive or hopeful. H is adament that his feelings will not change as he has felt this way for so long. In fact when I look back I wonder if we should ever have got married? T13, M8, 2d 19 & 16 from previous M. 2s 7 & 3 from this M.

Cat - I could accept i'm to blame, if i knew what the issues were, although H says there are no issues, so how can you work through things if he wont talk about problems? I believe there are issues but he has given up and is not prepared to try, he is unable to communicate and has always internalised things. Once he makes his mind up there's no changing it, he says there is no ow and just wants to be on his own. He's 41, i'm 43.

My question is: how do I continue to DB and work on myself at the same time, whilst knowing he will be moving out? As you say i'm exhausted.

Thankyou for answering, i feel much support.