I think you are a normal person. Not a rapist or a pervert. My husband has wakened me by being inside me. I have woken him up by giving him a BJ. We are married and comfortable that way.
I agree she needs help. You should insist on this. She really must have some trauma in her past.
HD, I agree with the others...bf reaches out to me all the time in the middle of the night and holds me and my boob...LOL. You are not a weirdo...please, don't even think such a thing. I would say like someone else said..."we are married and it is your boob for Christ's Sake...chill out." Good grief. She does have some very serious issues. I know you get tired of hearing that.
I have to ask...what would she do if you moved to another room? I know this is not good for the marriage, but just wondering how she would handle that.
I think I'm going to come out of retirement for this one. *sleepy look beause of late hour* (I have been dealing with a young relative with mental health issues who's thankfully now stablized; and some exam stuff that's drastically cut into my computer playtime).
a) it is not indicative of a pervert to want to caress one's partner, sleeping or otherwise, on the boobs or related pieces of anatomy. It is, in fact, normal.
b) that said, if said partner has previously expressly he/she does not want this to happen, ever, such wishes must be respected. Always.
c) to continue to sleep next to a person who will go off on in such an extreme manner for such an "infraction" is rather masochistic. I wouldn't do it. You don't want to be touched and I want to sleep in a different room, where I won't be tempted to molest you.
I have to admit that in some deep cavern of my female mind I somehow admire her nerve. The sheer outrageousness of her reaction and subsequent logici-fying is awe-inspiring. It strikes a cat-chord in me and turns my eyes green. Give me her phone number so we can have tea. Oh, and be afraid. Be very afraid. *grin*
a) it is not indicative of a pervert to want to caress one's partner, sleeping or otherwise, on the boobs or related pieces of anatomy. It is, in fact, normal.
b) that said, if said partner has previously expressly he/she does not want this to happen, ever, such wishes must be respected. Always.
c) to continue to sleep next to a person who will go off on in such an extreme manner for such an "infraction" is rather masochistic. I wouldn't do it. You don't want to be touched and I want to sleep in a different room, where I won't be tempted to molest you.
I agree with all this. On some level, Hairdog knew he was provoking his W because they have been through this before. I have great emptahy for Hairdog and can sense his pain and frustration, which may have been more acute having come back from ( another) sexless vacation. Hairdog, you know inside that you are no rapist; in fact, that is part of the problem, that you are too nice ( not that you should go and imitate rapists!)
I want to call up your wife, not to have lunch with her, but to inform her that if she doesn't try to tackle her control/vulnerability issues, she is going to lose her marriage.
Perhaps he did it again because maybe he hoped. Maybe he was attracted to his wife and wanted to reach out. Maybe there was hope because they have had sex since the incident before.
This is just so bizarre that she would react this way.
Well, perhaps HD knew better and no, I would not want to wake up with my spouse on top of me, but really, this just isn't a big deal to a normal person. A simple "I don't appreciate it" would do just fine, and then forget about it. Mrs. HD knows what it takes to make a marriage work and be whole...and she is not meeting him halfway. She has drawn a big, fat line in the sand regarding his need for some intimacy, making it out to be something that has to be well deserved and then probably not going to happen. I still think her not giving in is about complete and utter control over him.
