Great to see you back! I'm with Heim, a little worried about you. To me it sounds a bit like you've done so much, come so far yourself (you say you may be done with some of the working on you), and maybe now you're at something of a loss---everything's been checked off. So perhaps now, re your R, you're really feeling the waiting. Is your anger coming from helplessness? It's one thing to know you can't control your W, but entirely another to accept it and let it go.
I'm not sure how we're supposed to be open to a new R with the WAS while at the same time having no expectations. Those seem mutually exclusive to me, but hey, I'm pretty new at this. Unfulfilled expectations breed anger, though, so perhaps it's just a choice.
I think you're (your usual) wise to sit with this for a while before acting. Anger and resentment are completely normal. I guess the trick is experiencing them, acknowledging them, and moving on without stoking them and getting stuck.
I like slowly's approach to talking about the issue of telling other people. My H would like us to draft a joint press release announcing our exciting new non-romantic partnership. Not gonna happen. (Hey slowly, I'd love to hear more about that breakthrough re separating H's choices from your self-esteem. Stop on by anytime.)
Nomo, you continue to be an inspiration. Thanks for sharing. And lastly, I stand in awe of your social prowess.
