Choc is one strong man, you are right. But this is about "tough love". I think he has to do what he has to to protect himself, because this is just the beginning of a long road that they have ahead of them. IMO, she needs to know without a doubt that this can never happen again if she wants him and their marriage. I know exactly what he is going through...my ex-bf was divorced and his ex-w, who had an affair also, came back, the same way Mrs. Choc is, and my ex gave in pretty quickly. Make a long story short, 2 years later after reconcilation, she did the same thing all over again and my ex was hurt even worse...in fact, I don't think he will ever be the same man. A spouse who returns out of fear of the unknown or insecurity issues many times comes back for the wrong reasons. He has to know that she is not doing this...that she loves him and wants to be with him for the right reasons. So while it may seem he is being cold, she does know that he still loves her and is willing to give her one more chance...but it won't be easy. JMHO of course.
