Agent99, I will not respond to each detail of your post. But, I will offer this insight. R talks is to avoided for exactly the reasons stated in your post. Both you and your husband are feeling vulnerable, lonely and extremely confused right now. When we initiate R talk under these circumstances they are always going to be a huge mangled mess. To many emotions are involved, to many hurtful comments are made, as we try to protect ourselves and our dignity.
Brush of you CHAPS, lift up your chin, shrug of all the negatives and move on. You guys had a great weekend and some great bonding time together. That is what needs to be focused on. Of course there are some truths to some of the hurtful comments that each of you made, but I am sure both of you wish they did not exist and if you guys continue to focus on the good and work together to make the most of the time you spend together as positive, then then bad times will loose there spotlight and soon fade away. But, R talk will make the negatives shine bright every time as long as we are feeling vulnerable, lonely and confused.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
