You will find that each life transition is different and complex from the next one. The transitions are trying for those of us who have to sit on the sidelines and watch others grow up and learn to be the people that they were destined to be, not what their parents, guardians and others expected them to be.
Your wife has a lot of phobias that will become stronger as her transition takes her deeper within herself. Those phobias will be a part of her depression. She'll have all kinds of illness suddenly pop up and there won't be anything wrong w/her that the physician will be able to detect. She'll complain of being tired, aches and pains, colds, high blood pressure, she may exhibit anger, lack of sleep, may sleep more, loss of appetite, then again may eat everything in sight. Her appearance will begin to change. She may experiment with body piercings, tattoos, change of hair style, color, and the last one--begins to wear younger, more youthful looking clothes. This will go on for a while and then you'll begin to gradually see her toning it down again. Her appearance will start to look tired and run down, she'll begin to age and the twinkle that once was in her eye is totally gone. She's depressed and will be quite negative in the way she thinks and speaks about things. This is all about the transition that she's going to be experiencing in the months ahead.
It's very complex and it's not about the red spots car or the sugar daddy, it's about emotions. Emotions will be what rules her world, rational thinking will go out the window in time. It will become her "me" world and she'll not give a hoot about what you or your family wants. She will feel entitled to everything. Why? Because her emotional growth was stunted a long time ago and she's got to grow up.
I'm sorry you are here, but I can assure you, there are many wonderful people posting here 24/7 and will be here to assist you along the way. I'm just thankful that you are taking care of yourself and do continue to follow what your doctor orders and take the prescribed medication. For now, you are the most important person and you need to take care of yourself. God will watch over your wife while she's in transition.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
