What you did as compared to the work sitch? Apples and oranges, my friend. Violated? I don't think so. Frankly, I think it is within reason to call her on her BS. "Trust?" Do you "trust" her? Do you trust that this is an honest reaction to a minor transgression or has she blown it out of proportion for her to protect her position of moral authority in the marriage?
Hairy - I made a half-asleep, minor, transgression on your person. I am somewhat sorry but mostly only sorry for the pain in the neck this has caused me.
Ms. HD - I just don't know if I will ever trust you again. How do I know you wouldn't go even further next time?
Hairy - Guess that's one for you to work out. Not my problem.
Honestly Hairy, that was mostly tongue in cheek but if Mrs. HD really sees things that way then she MUST have significant trauma in her background. There is something more there. She is not your run of the mill annoyed W who thinks her H is a handsy pain in the butt. That being the case you cannot win this issue. Until she understands that she has deep seated issues that are playing a part and that it isn't just YOU and YOUR problem you will replay the Hairdog the insensitive vs Mrs. HD the long suffering over and over.
