I think you need to make it very clear that this “violation of trust” is only a script running in her head and no matter how she might feel about it, there was no violation at all, but just the normal thing that occurs between H & W.
Normal? Now, we've been here before. (Normal frequency of sex for married couples). I know, I know, don't let HER define my thinking. But how about the betrayal part? The fact that she has asked me not to touch her boobs (etc.) when she is asleep, and I did it in spite of that?
