I don't know where to put this, so... I'll just do it here.
Issues regarding my father keep popping up. For those of you who don't know... he's 74. He's had two heart attacks and other health stuff. He works a full-time job. Not a strenuous job, but, he IS still working full-time. He lives in a motel, and believe it or not, has a pretty full life he has created for himself. It's going to make one he!! of a book.
My dad is also the consummate manipulator. My brother has no tolerance for that. I don't blame him. He does love our father. He just refuses to pity him. I accept that. "He can take responsibility for his own dam life. When he decides what he wants to do, and how he wants to do it, I'll help. You tell me when, where and how much, and I'll help. But I am not going to run that man's life for him...." And that is the nice version of his tirade. But... I understand. Agree? No. Understand? Yes.
My two little sisters are worthless in asking for assistance... I don't even bother.
My dad, because of his various illnesses and LONG list of medications and age... is quickly reaching the point where he's going to have to make a move... and is even indicating that he's ready to make that move. Soon.
The manipulation part comes into play because he wants me to believe that this is an unsolvable problem for him... one that is just beyond him to make. Bllsh!t. I just know that he won't solve his own problem, and I am going to help him -- but ONLY to keep this from becoming a bigger problem for me down the road. Self-preservation can be a mighty motivator.
He only makes about $800 a month from his Soc. Sec. He has no other retirement funds.
THAT is a problem. It is dam hard to live on $800 a month, I don't care who you are.
He doesn't want to live with me... and that's okay with me. We did a trial run of this last winter when he came to stay with me for a month.
But. I am now faced with finding options... and I have no clue where to start. Has anyone been through this, and is there a good place to find GOOD information to help me?
