I know I come here and vent about all the crappy parts of the M, but there are also good parts. (I try to share those from time to time, too) She is funny, intelligent, a good mom, a good person, a competent professional. Early on, there were actually sparks, passion. Or so it seemed to me at the time.
Originally Posted By: moretocome
The way she treats you, IMO, would overshadow all other things in your relationship.
Some days, it does. Some days I think to myself, "she doesn't have sex with me, she seems to barely tolerate me at times, and, even when things are relatively good between us, they can head south in an instant with just the wrong comment by me, or by me forgetting something I said I'd do, or whatever." But there are also days when I am generally feeling fortunate to be married to her, in spite of everything. And every once in a while there are days when things seem wonderful. It's been a while, though.
The other thing is, this NMMNG stuff really gets you to focus on your own sh!t, so I'm left thinking along the lines of, "no wonder she's so grumpy, so angry, so distant -- she has to deal with wimpy ol' me." I'm still at the early stages of figuring out how to stop being that NG.
Originally Posted By: moretocome
This is just a *really* good excuse for her to be mean and controlling towards you...for a really long time. She likes it like that. She really does.
I wonder why she'd want that? I could drive myself crazy trying to figure that out. The NG in me just says, "she found one of my flaws...she'll stop loving me, for a while at least"
