Simple advice, go with the flow at the moment. Don't try to analyse every little bit. After the incident above, we have since been intimate (terrible word for so much fun) twice and I have just enjoyed it for what it is.
Doesn't mean I still get hurt with the rest, but if that intimacy is still there from W, then maybe there is a hope. Difference with my sitch is W is still under same roof.
DB means changing yourself, so if you enjoyed the sex, then don't worry about it. Keep DBing, live life for yourself and find the castle analogy on this site (it is excellent).
lwb,
Tell me more about the 'friendly' aspects ;-). I got a compliment today in front of W - don't it feel good.
Current situation is not too bad, thought stopping is working, being cheerful and a cheerleader, so all being well, life is progressing. W just mentioned a holiday in December (woo hoo), so no pressure and living day to day and not getting to high when things like that are mentioned.
Husband,
Life sucks and then you pay taxes. You have my support and gratitude, wonder how our W's would react if we started dating :-).
Today is a good day to live, hopefully tomorrow will be as good.
