I too think you should not apologize for feeling her boob. Tell her felt it because it felt good and you liked it. You weren’t raping her, just feeling her boob. Don’t excuse it, otherwise you’re playing her game by allowing yourself to be on the defensive.
I would dig into what the heck she is doing in her therapy sessions if she can’t make a distinction between her client and her H. I would take great offense at her putting you in the same class as her client’s H. In fact, I would be infuriated and I’d let her know that.
Where in here past does this stuff keep coming from and why won’t she let it go? This might be a good opportunity to let her know that her reactions are off the scale and she is the one who needs to get some serious help. After all, she’s the one making all the assumptions, not you. So where does the idea come from to make those assumptions in the first place and why is she reacting so strongly? This is all her crap, not yours. I’d go on the counter offensive if I were you because otherwise she will have a nice defensive wall for as long as she wants to keep it. Doing nothing plays right into her hands.
Tell her you two are going to joint counseling and hash this matter out.
