I want to tell her, "It was just your boob...get over it!" I want to tell her that I apologized, that it was genuine, and that I will not join her in beating the sh!t out of me over it. I want to tell her that she may think I need to earn her trust back over months and years, but that "her trust" is her problem, and that all I need to do is to be comfortable with the person I am.
The only part I'd drop is "It was just your boob... get over it!" After all, to her, her boob may be the modern day translation of the Holy Land. And she could have all sorts of beliefs attached to that. So... you know... just a heads up...
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I want to tell her that I apologized, that it was genuine, and that I will not join her in beating the sh!t out of me over it. I want to tell her that she may think I need to earn her trust back over months and years, but that "her trust" is her problem.
I like this.
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all I need to do is to be comfortable with the person I am.
That's for you to know, and her to find out.
At some point, you may want to discuss the trial issues she is dealing with, 'cuz, personally, if that guy did do all that stuff? That's one scary MFer. I can see how it might be troubling for her.
But... she doesn't have a right to project those troubling feelings on to you... you can validate her and her feelings. A boundary is to not take responsibility for when she projects those feelings onto you.
