Cobra Maybe you should take her on a trip to a really depressed area of the world, some third world country with REAL poverty. That is a real eye opener. That is "So True."
When I post on the mostly LBW forum, I know I am island of testosterone in a sea of estrogen, (fancy way of saying the women are mostly going to see things from their POV) but some guys represented there, (mostly 2nd hand information BTW) seem to be in “me mode.” They have OW, the bachelor apt, toys/cars/boats, and a different job, unlike most of the men on SSM. Many of the W's think all men cheat eventually.
Dangerous, maybe Cobra. Risky and trying, for sure some times.
It isn't only men being selfish. Some women show up in "selfish me mode."
It is a challenge to post there. Sometimes the clubs and insults are hurled at me. Sometimes after a while a few so called "perfect W" will see some things she did to contribute to the demise of the R.
One W wanted to bail on her M. It took a couple of months of listing what I do for my family and for BB for her to see what her H was doing for her and why her new boy toy wouldn't do those things. She said she wasn't going to leaver her H and thanked me for pointing out reasons to save her M and things she now saw as valuable, that she hadn't in the past.
I tried to do the same with another woman. I think she bailed. The boy-toy attraction was too strong. Her H sounded like a good man. Oh well, that happens.
There are men on the forum admitting faults and mistakes. Some women verbally beat those guys at first, then soften and ask why the man thinks or acts a certain way.
In the end, most men and women gain understanding of each others situation a little bit better. I see some slow growth in some of the posters. I transfer ideas posted on the SSM and have helped a few guys improve their EQ or something similar.
