My very personal opinion. Dump her. Dump her now. She isn't worth the dirt on your shoe. Why, you may ask? Because she's equating her work with you. You can NEVER win with her and NEVER will. Get this, she just accused you of RAPE. RAPE. Get it?! I would very personally strongly suggest getting out. Get out now. You may love her all you want but until she gets fixed in her head that you aren't a rapist it will never, ever, ever get better. Ever. Have I stressed this enough now?
She needs help and deep, long counseling. You need to protect yourself from false allegation and get away from this...I'm not even going to say what I think of people who falsly accuse others of rape are.
I'm sorry for your loss. Get rid of it. Do it soon or you could seriously end up in jail. I am not kidding one little iota. Seen it done. Lived part of it. Get out.
