This is important.... you are in a weird transition time right now. You need to keep DBing and detaching for the next month or two. Do not change how you have been. Keep emotional distance (but don't be afraid to give love, listening and friendship without expecting, or getting anything back). JUST BE FRIENDS!!!! No EXPECTATIONS!!! In fact, expect that he could leave you.... He COULD change his mind. Don't stop GALing!!!!!!!!
The focus is not on your "marriage" you need to focus on "FRIENDSHIP." Stay strong. Try to enjoy a very slow building up of friendship, daily routine, normal daily junk, focus on kids, focus on YOU and the little things that make you happy...etc...
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
