Corri When I put ????? after your H's name, I had mismatched in mind. I know you are very precise and are in fine detail mode most of the time.
I didn't want to get it wrong so I put in ????? instead of a words or words. You said it better with your post There are all kinds of things I can list regarding what I did/didn't do that added to us not 'finding our way out of that.' When I am feeling b!tchy and self-serving, I can come up with quite a list, for HIM, that added to us not 'finding our way.'