Fearless- Thanks for the I agree that in general feelings are considered the realm of the female but that may because some of the more masculine ones aren't so pretty and would rather be swept under the "carpet". You didn't insinuate that I did I put that in there.
Kett- I can see the danger in labeling M/F and will try to think of agency and communion instead way less "loaded".
Chrome- You're doing fine it's never going to be perfect and smooth and you'll fall down, you'll fail, you'll succeed, be rejected and accepted, F*cked and not F*cked. You can handle it.
About anger I can relate to not knowing how to express anger I'm still not very good at it. I think with anger is a call to action a Kicking the cow, hitting the kid or throwing the monitor. That's a response to a strong physical stimulation where there are no F#cking words that will satiate that destructive power.
It's scary to have to be responsible for all that power.
Most of the time for myself there is a story that goes along with the anger a story that I keep telling my self that feeds the anger. Feeding the anger keeps it alive for longer than the stimulation that pissed me off in the first place.
Maybe you can try and see if you have stories that are separate from the physical stimulation of anger.
