we can either lay down and be that victim, or we can be the hero we deserve to be...
So what actions are involved in the choices you have to take either of these paths right now?
Which path are you on? A little tough for me to tell, actually.
But believe this: you're on a path/journey/process right now. There are many steps, and you don't really get to bypass them. They take how ever long they take; nobody can speed it up for you.
One of the steps that's pretty important is to stop thinking about what he's doing, why he's doing it.... From where I see things there's still quite a bit of that going on here. Not the most productive way for you to be right now.
a woman who was divorced after her h left her for an ow, and how she was able to just dive in and GAL in ways that were so much fun...included getting a vespa
So I noted a while back where you had written this:
6) continue with my lists...things I liked to do pre-h, things I want to look back on someday and know i accomplished.
Did you make this list?
Was there a vespa on it?
made me realize how good life can be if I go out and make it happen.
Maybe I'm mistaken, but I suspect you already know how good life can be, and you're already making it happen.
I really think this is just h trying to keep control of the situation...to know he can have me, have her,
Maybe. You really aren't going to have any way to know. As long as you're OK with it, but it sounds like you're not exactly... Since you use words like 'caved', implying weakness.
Oh, and one last thing. Not sure whatever came of this from the POV of your thought processes, but don't forget the lessons that came out of these two things you wrote about some missing items:
bottle of johnny walker blue...its HUGE. really nice, inscribed with his name on it, etc. well, just walked thru that part to get to the laundry room and its GONE.
wtf, is he going to start drinking whiskey now? he hates whiskey. hates it with a passion. I'm starting to get concerned about the fact that he wrote me that he is drinking too much. I figured he said that to push buttons (I'm the daughter of an alcoholic, don't forget). but now I'm wondering...is he progressing in that direction?
yeah, he could have taken it for a keepsake. but why take that now? most of that kind of stuff, and any keepsake stuff, is still here in the basement, until he has room for it.
so why?
hmmmm
And then
then he told me he took a bunch of stuff when he was here yesterday...his bottle of whiskey, another inscribed bottle, his pictures and such...all to decorate his new office. doh!
Take care and see you in October
S_O_T_S aka: Stoic_On_The_Surface
I can't quite get there cause my heart's forsaken me - KT Tunstall
