Bryan, it will be hard to do, but you have got to turn off the husband relationship brain and make sure you are not it that mode. Think friends. Go have fun night out with your friend. Keep it a conversation amongst friends. As mentioned by Lissie let her lead the conversation.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”