Havn't been here for awhile, update.

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Whatis;
Greatt to hear from you. You are right, I am way too available. I have not figured out how to strike that balance yet, but I better pretty soon because I am starting to get resentful, yes I know, normal at this stage, but it seems like I am doing all the work.

As I write that, I realize that she is working at it as well, only she has farther to come, as in coming back to me. I never really left. I was and continue to be a detachment failure and that makes this even more difficult then it needs to be. I continue to do things for me, but find myself slipping back into those old patterns of me doing everything for her, of looking for ways to show her that I am still in love with her. I need to let her show me.

Positives:
1)W has agreed to, and gone to MC.
2)W has said she loves me but only one time (I have by the way reverted to the no ILY rule until we are further along)
3)W looks for things for us to do together, both as a couple, and as a family.
4)W is spending a lot of time with the kids.
5)W introduces me as her H.
When we first started to reconnect, she would say things like "Oh hi, and this is 8....." then it became "this is 8,.....my husband", now it is "this is my husband,8"
6)W will pull me to her and kiss me.

I need to stay focused on the positives without losing track of what brought us here.