The NEED, for recharging in the cave directly conflicts with her NEED to feel/know her emotional relevance.
Hm. I don't see that statement being gender related. I'd say you've got the whole LD/HD thing summed up pretty nicely there... feeds all kinds of things... pursuer/avoider... well... you all can think of the others...
No one ever seems to bother finding out INTENT for either one of those actions. They assume they know the intent, or, if the intent is spoken, the other person doesn't believe it.
I see that cycle as being NECESSARY for the sustainability of a LTR... in any LTR, whether it is a marriage or a friendship, or even with family. To NOT do that cycle... is to have superhuman powers, which none of us have... 'least, last time I checked.
But if you can't recognize the need for what it is... and state it... and if you can't accept it from your partner when it comes... and not personalize it... hmmm. KA-BHAMMM!!!!
No matter what animal or zoo keeper or zoo patron is in proximity... they will probably get killed/maimed/injured...
