Sue, UCK to the phone call. I would love to set H's phone on fire, I really would. To think of all the times he used it to talk, flirt, laugh, plan times to meet....BARF Sometimes I think all of that is worse than the actual physical things they did together.

I am glad to hear your H's A might not be physical. Although, I will admit, I learned of the EA first, and was just as devastated, so I am not taking away any of your pain. I know it still hurts.

Ok, list of things to do today: assertiveness, confidence, taking charge. Easy peezy! \:\) Seriously though, if you exude confidence (even if you don't feel it), it will come back to you, giving you positive feedback, therefore feeding your confidence level. Know in your heart (and you do know this), that while its not what you want, you could be a single mom and take care of yourself and D3. No, won't be easy, but if you admit to yourself that you could do it, that alone will give you confidence. Anything else after that (H staying) would be even better, but you can't focus on that now.

YOU YOU YOU YOU!!

PS: My H is soooo not into cards, thinks they are a waste of money. Did your H feel that was before this mess? Maybe you don't have to read as much into the card, huh?